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MIRROR OF THE MIND
I know, I know, using my blog to write to-do lists is the ULTIMATE in lame. And yet. Who else should I share the most important things in my life with? You think my husband and children give a rat's ass about my to-do list?

It's short. Or at least it is from this end, when I haven't actually started it yet.
  • Write Christmas cards
  • Buy stamps
  • Mail Christmas cards
  • Post online Christmas letter
  • Bake Christmas cookies
  • Check gift pile status...are the kids' presents balanced? If not, remedy
  • Clean the freaking house
  • Buy Christmas food, Swedish and American style
  • Work on my sister's Christmas present
  • Get the kids to finish decorating the little tree
  • Put the boxes back in the storage room
That's pretty short, right?

We are watching Lie To Me. Have you seen it? Martin saw the pilot some time ago and asked for it for Christmas, and I gave him season 1 for his birthday. ALL of us are watching it... unheard of! (though I think Karin might actually have been watching The Walking Dead on her iPad tonight instead). We've watched 6 episodes and I still can't decide if I like it or not. I've always thought Tim Roth was brilliant, but he's so... I don't know.

Martin had the same reaction. I said I thought the show was well-done and interesting, but half the time it just goes so completely over the top, I can't suspend my disbelief, and also I work for a company that makes surveillance cameras and ATTENTION TV PEOPLE, you cannot ENHANCE images to see what isn't actually there.

I think the premise of the show is fascinating: the science behind people's expressions, gestures and body language used as a tool for evidence about whether they are lying or not, in all kinds of situations. But it keeps straying in the realm of what? stop, seriously? Get out of here.

Martin thinks part of the problem is Tim Roth's character. He's another one of those loner, super-intellectual, more-intelligent-than-thou, kind of creepster arrogant, borderline asshole men. Martin ticked off several shows that we've watched (and liked) recently-ish that have the same kind of main character: Sherlock, Elementary (Sherlock again), Mad Men.

According to IMDB's trivia, Lie To Me ran for 3 seasons and was canceled in 2011 but is apparently being filmed now again for release in 2015. I have never heard of a show having a 4 year hiatus! What's up with that? Wikipedia says nothing about a new season so I find myself doubtful.

ANYWAY, (and just imagine how many items I might have been able to check off my to-do list instead of this!) it's interesting to realize how much you reveal about what you really think through your involuntary facial expressions, twitches, gestures, etc. Scary, really, because you might think you have a poker-player blank face but chances are that most people can pick up on what you're not even realizing you're putting down.

I don't think it takes a scientist to catch/see most of these kinds of things. I think the basic requirement is that you're human. We all make the same faces, the same expressions and react in universal emotional ways. I suspect it's more that we don't trust ourselves to believe what we see, especially when it doesn't jive with what we want to think. And I think most of the time people are simply not paying attention.

What do you think? And don't lie to me.

I saw that.
 thoughtful
mood: thoughtful
music: Pentatonix—Carol of the Bells


Comments

My son pointed out that Sherlock in Elementary comes across more like Monk than BBC (or any other) Sherlock. Very dysfunctional.

I don't know who Monk is but I would still agree :)

(Anonymous)
From Megsie

What a great question. I think we totally use nonverbal communication without thinking about it. When they slow down people's facial expressions you can see all sorts of things you don't realize you don't see. Although, you MUST because there is an involuntary reaction that people do when confronted with the faces. Weird. My list is MUCH longer than yours. But it isn't even written, yet. Stop showing off. Geez.

xoxoxo

Re: From Megsie

LOL! Just wait until I start crossing them off!

I'm pretty sure that my eye rolling gives me away :-)

I've not heard of the show, but the concept sounds intriguing. I was going to say that I didn't like Tim Roth until I Googled him just to be sure and discovered I didn't know him at all. It turns out I was thinking of Tim Curry. *cue eye rolling on an epic scale*

In my job, I spent my entire day being lied to by people and after a while I learned to look for signs that got my bullshit meter spidey senses tingling. When you do that for eight hours a day, it's not hard to see that you carry it over into your private life. Mostly it's just astute observation and experience - the signs of lying appear to be fairly uniform across cultures. Some of my family think I'm some kind of witch mind reader, but it's not a trick. Oh yeah, that burning smell helps :-)

I would think being a lawyer would turn you into a major cynic...or maybe it helps to be one to begin with?

I think it helps to have the cynic gene (and the hide of a rhino) to work as a lawyer. But you certainly cultivate and fertilise that gene working with compulsive liars clients.

I was only caught out once, right at the beginning where I believed what my client told me - I took it at face value without doing any real background checks. That's a typical newbie error. Anyway, I arrived in court full of righteous anger at the way my client was being treated and of course the prosecutor (quite rightly) ripped me another one. I NEVER made that mistake again and always take the stance that I'm being at least partially lied to until I prove otherwise (not that I tell my client that!). You'd be amazed how "economical with the truth" people can be, even though they are paying me to HELP them. Sheesh.

Being a list maker myself, Liz, that list is deceptively long due to content. We both know it. Only a robot would find it short. Muhahhaahahaha...

Oh, and what's with the weird comments? You allow anonymous commenters??

Yeah, I allow anonymous, because I have a lot of friends and family without blogs or LJ accounts. I just delete the spam

(Anonymous)

And...especially ME! Love, Lizardmom (but at least I always sign my name.

Haha! Especially you!

(Anonymous)

Although too often I have to prove I'm a human! So Liz it is true, I got let in here!

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