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OFF WITH THEIR HEADS! SAYS THE DRAMA QUEEN
There's so much drama online these days. Where do people find the energy? If I disagree with something someone says, I usually keep it to myself and move on*. I don't feel this massive, pushing, labor-like pressure to vent it out and make someone feel bad or get defensive. I don't think everyone has to know what I think about everything. As far as I'm concerned, everyone is entitled to their own feelings and opinions and if they're wrong and backwards and need to get over themselves already, fine, whatever, but I don't feel it's my job to tell them so.

I'm not talking about LJ in particular, although god knows there is plenty of drama around here, although never among my friends because YOU are all well-adjusted, sane, intelligent people. :) I'm not even talking about anyone specific. I just see that because people are laying their lives out online, in all their white-bellied, goose-pimpled, creased and bitten glory, that they and the people reading them feel they know everything about each other and that it's OKAY to just dish it out.

For myself, I think there should be more helping hands and hugs, as hokey as that may sound, than slaps with cluesticks or derisive words.

I don't mean FOR ME, I mean IN MY OPINION. Which you are welcome to disagree with. And you're even welcome to TELL ME you disagree with me as long as you do so nicely.

I get lots of helping hands and hugs from people online and people I know and my family, and every once in a while a friend or family member (or myself when the occasional wallowing gets too over-the-top) will take it upon themselves to hand me that cluestick instead of beating me over the head with it, and that's how it should be.

Opinions are like children. We raise them up and nurture them and we hold them very dear to our hearts and occasionally they change or we change them or they drink the liquor and replace it with water when we're out for the evening.

Opinions are like chickens. Everything tastes like them and once in awhile you need to cut their heads off and let them go flapping around. Haaa! Okay, I don't really think that, but it sure made me giggle like a mad fiend.

What opinions are, are YOURS. I'm not saying that expressing yours is wrong or unsavory or inappropriate. And I'm not saying that you can't change someone else's opinion by telling them the way you see things and arguing your side in a calm and rational manner. I'm just saying that we might share an opinion and we might not, and the holding of any opinion is not necessarily wrong just because it happens not to be the opinion you hold.

And now I'm going to shut up about my damned opinions already and wait for the hugs to start flowing. I'll be over here flapping like a decapitated chicken if you need me.

How can one job-hunt when there are so many good articles, stories & reviews at Mosaic Minds to read? And poems. ahem.

Speaking of Opinions, Here's a Good One: Facts of Life

Yeah, What She Said: I have this thing sometimes where I imagine...

*or else I gossip about it with my girlfriends which is much more satisfying, really.
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And now I'm going to shut up about my damned opinions already and wait for the hugs to start flowing. I'll be over here flapping like a decapitated chicken if you need me.

*beats you over the headshoulders till you stop flapping so she can HUG you tight*

Fantastic entry! Hear! Hear!

*hugs you back because one can never have too much hugging*

(well, okay, I suppose one can :P)

Well, I'm not a huggy type person, ya know. I AM three-quarters Scandinavian, so that much physical contact makes me kind of nervous (unless it's been sanctioned by a priest in the Lutheran church, and even then, one has to draw the line somewhere, don'tcha know?). But in my very warm, loving, best three-quarters Scandinavian style (the other quarter is English, so not much gushing there either), I will give you a nice pat on the shoulder, while not standing TOO close you understand, and briefly make eye contact before looking away again, just in case it gets too emotional.

*guffaws* You're SO assimilated!

*giggles* Careful when you meet me. I've been known to pouncehug people without warning!

*stalks*

I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who doesn't give many hugs, though I don't have any Scandinavian blood in me. I am actually kind of shy to give them out to anyone except family and girlfriend. I don't know why.

And don't forget that when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a chicken.

Sorry I haven't said much about the job thing. It's probably because I'm terrified to be in your position right now of having to look and feeling not-very-assimilated into this culture. Hope you get lots of nibbles very soon!

Thanks, you :) There's not much to be said, really. I'm fairly terrified to be in my position, too, but there's always Burgare kungen.

No, it won't come to that for you. You are a) brilliant, b) have lots of possibilities and c) speak fluent Swedish. There's a long way yet before it comes to 'Vill du ha pommes?' :)

I'm would be practicing how to say "paper or plastic?" in Swedish but everyone here bags their own damn groceries.

"...and occasionally they change or we change them or they drink the liquor and replace it with water when we're out for the evening."

The chickens analogy was good, but this is subtly better, in my not-so-humble opinion. :)

I love that I've met you, Liz, and am grateful to have you and others like you in my life. You've been there for me, and I'm here for you too!


ditto chickie. We've got each other's backs! that feels very good to know ;)

(Anonymous)

Group Hug??? Anyone???
or since this is online would it be a virtual group hug?
Just grab youself around the shoulders and squeeze!
Makes everyone feel better, doesnt it?

I take it you got home okay, John. :P

hahahaha....that chicken bit sure had me howling..thanks for the laugh :) Oh and heres a *hug*

opinions and chickens

I LIKE your opinions woman!
And this: "What opinions are, are YOURS." is a fantastic line.

Yah, I'm with you on this one. LJ I think, should be a safe place to lay ourselves bare in a sense... and cluesticks, after given space to pick them up ourselves, should only ever be handed over gently, even if firmly. AND mostly (in my not so humble opinion) to support and reinforce what we already know!! So there.

I'll never think of chickens in the same way :-)

P.S.

Facts of Life was really good! Wado
And I couldn't get to:
" I have this thing sometimes where I imagine..."
:-(

I like this post :) Thanks.

Opinions are like chickens. Everything tastes like them and once in awhile you need to cut their heads off and let them go flapping around.

That reminds me of a hilarious story I heard at my grandma's funeral. It involved my Aunt Lori as a child being chased by a decapitated turkey squirting blood at her. Man, I'm glad I don't live on a farm.

Har! I was totally tramatized by a headless chicken as an adolescent as well, although it didn't actually squirt blood at ME. eek!

...or they drink the liquor and replace it with water when we're out for the evening...

I so did this! I never thought they knew...do you think they actually did and just could never bring themselves to discuss it??

Man, Liz, I'm right there with ya on the "opinion" opinion. Although I must admit that I do wish someone would get a little feisty with me every once in a while. I mean, that's why I started my blog in the first place. But I think most of the people who read it are generally too polite to challenge my (sometimes) obvious attempts to rile 'em up!

But here's a big hug and a telepathic send off of good thoughts your way.

I'm all for debate and rile-ing up, but sometimes people just are plain old MEAN. That's where I think the problem is. Thanks for the comment, and the telepathy :)

brilliant, mrs. lizard. I have no idea what particular situation you are speaking of, but you're right about how opinions change. I am so different in so many ways than I could have ever imagined two or three years ago - and light years away from an innocent high school graduate!!

Such a great post - I also love the 'drink the liquor and replace it with water' line!

*hugs* be flowin'

Good post. The Internet could definitely use a lot more tolerance of differing viewpoints. :)

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