lizardek's obiter dictum lizardek Home Now Then Friends Info Ek Family
zird is the word [userpic]
Oh, the weather outside is frightful! And I'm at work which isn't quite delightful, but since I need to learn to be careful what I wish for, let it snow, let it snow, let it snow!

The fog has clumped in with big wet feet, smothering the wind, following the rain, a snow wannabe. We had a right blizzard this morning, and it took me forever to get to work since we got a late start and then I had to drop Anders off at work before heading through the traffic jam that was Lund this morning. Does snow lower the IQ of drivers? It seems at least the first big one does. Not mine, of course, just everyone ELSE on the road. Funny how that works.

My weekend cleaning frenzy ended on a note of triumph. In addition to everything else I accomplished, late in the day on Sunday, I emptied the closet of all of Anders' clothes, folded them neatly in piles on the bed and asked him when he got home that evening if we could sort through them quickly. And he DID! 4 more bags for the Swedish Goodwill, plus my SEVEN, plus 4 bags of children's clothing. If there was a medal for cleaning out closets, we would SO be sporting the Gold!

Anders leaves this afternoon for 2 days in Germany, followed by the rest of the week in Italy, assuming his plane can get out with the weather conditions. He assures me that this is the last trip he is taking this year, which, since it is nearly the end of November, isn't all that comforting. We've been fighting a lot lately, or rather, not exactly fighting, but sort of taking offense with each other and not communicating very well. I seem to be awfully prickly right now, and so does he. This happens periodically and it always makes me sad and paranoid when it happens, even though we usually manage to get back on track fairly quickly. We both have so much going on that it causes a lot of stress and it naturally comes out at home, since we can't express it at work or at any of our other extracurricular activities where we have to behave responsibly.

I am SO looking forward to the end of this week! My brother and Simone arrive on Thursday, and Simone and I are going to a Christmas wreath-making workshop Thursday evening with the AWC. I already know how to make a wreath since I've been attending the workshop for 3 years, but it's always a lot of fun, and it will be cool to take Simone with me, as we don't get much of a chance to talk, just the two of us. She and John have asked me to sing at their wedding, and I plan to give them some suggestions this weekend. I've already mentioned a couple of songs that I've sung in the past, that they might like. The other day she was in the car and heard a song on the radio, and called John to tell him that she had just heard the most beautiful love song and then she belted out "You fill up my senses..." and John went, "OH NO, GOD PLEASE NOT ANNIE'S SONG!" ahahaha! I've sung that at least twice at weddings, so it would be an easy one to do. :)

On Friday, Anders comes home and ozswede and tallefjant arrive! I can't wait to see them again! They were so wonderful when we went up to Nynäshamn in May and mooched off visited them for a long weekend. Anders thought it was so weird to go stay with people that we had never met, but even he changed his mind after meeting Marie and L-G. I think now he has more trust that the online friendships I'm making are with real, nice people, and not internet psychos.* Our 4 houseguests are joining us for our annual Thanksgiving Bash, and they are in for a treat!

Every year, since we've been in Sweden, Anders and I have hosted a big dinner party on the Saturday after Thanksgiving. We invite our closest Swedish-American couples friends and usually throw a few others into the mix. This year it's a relatively small gathering with only 14 adults and 4 children. Anders and I provide the turkey, mashed potatoes and gravy (and the stuffing that is IN the turkeys), and we ask each couple to bring one of the other dishes. Someone usually provides a video of the actual Thanksgiving football game, too. It's the most American I feel all year, and I mean that in a good way.

Really Good Writing Out There Right Now: Because I Complain Too Much

Really Good Writing Out There That You Can Read in Bed: The World According to Chuck I'm serious! Go buy this book! It's so good, a wonderful collection of essays, and I'm not just saying that because I'm mentioned in the acknowledgements, even though that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. After all, it's not the first time I've been mentioned in the acknowledgements of a book. Me so cool. Although, since I haven't written a book myself, me nowhere near as cool as Chuck.

*Please don't burst his bubble. You know who you are. :P
mood: cheerful
music: REM—Around the Sun


Why in the world were you mentioned in the acknowledgements of a Xanth book?

Because I was corresponding with Piers Anthony (and still have the letters! in purple ink!) at the time and made a suggestion and he incorporated it into that particular book and thanked me for it in the acknowledgements (along with all the other readers who had sent in ideas). My idea was for a chocolate moose. Bet you're not surprised. :D Hey, I was 14 years old!

Not. Surprised. At. All.


whew--- you are a busy busy busy woman! ~bluepoppy

I'm a maniac! :D

sorry to hear you are going through a tough time marriage-wise, petal. soudns to me like you both need to take up a hobby that allows you to be irresponsible. something like paint-balling. to let off steam, you know.

i hope things brighten up soon :)

It's not so much a tough time as a stressy one. It's too easy to take each other for granted sometimes, and too easy to forget to talk instead of withdrawing! We'll be okay :)

(no subject) - (Anonymous)

You too!! :)

It's snowing like mad here as well.

We are also really excited about coming. And don't worry - I CAN behave (if the price is right).

We still don't have a reliable internet connection at the moment, so no posting or commenting much, though I can read journals. I'm lucky this time it let me comment! Bloody broadband company!

Sorry to hear that you and Anders are going through some tense times. It happens periodically in all relationships. I think you two can sort through your feelings and come together again. Just go back and take a GOOD look at the family picture you drew on ArtPad the other day. What struck me immediately was the way Anders strength as a family protector was drawn first - that arm encircling those he loved. It really is quite striking. You guys are a real unit.

It does happen periodically, and after 10 years together, I think it's both to be expected, and a good thing that I recognize it when it happens...which allows me to not freak out. :)

By the way, I need to give you guys directions...but will you be coming from Malmo after having dropped off the kids? Or?

Message from "the man"

Directions? I don't need directions!! Yes, we ARE coming from Malmö after dropping off Annelie (no friend, just her now). Of course, I MAY ring you from the wilds of Skåne after we are hopelessly lost :)

Re: Message from "the man"

What time do you think you'll be arriving? I have to work, but will be trying to leave early...however, my brother and Simone (and the kids) should be home. I'll email you directions. :)

Re: Message from "the man"

Thanks, Liz. I'll print them out to save any embarrassment. I think we will be late as I can't see us leaving before 10am. Then it's first to Malmö, then back to you. As I said, we'll fix our own dinner etc so you guys can just carry on as normal. I'll ring you at work in the day to let you know where we are.

Re: Message from "the man"

You WILL NOT fix your own dinner!

Re: Message from "the man"

You WILL NOT fix your own dinner!

How can you stop me? I'll be making something on Thursday, so I can reheat it at your place when we get there. Try and prevent that, Miss Smarty Pants :D

Re: Message from "the man"

No reheating allowed. Guests do NOT bring and fix their own food. Especially guests that fed us for 2.5 days at their house last May!

Re: Message from "the man"

Looks like it will be Gazpacho, then. :)

Sorry to hear it's a prickly phased, I have those and I'm sure sometimes that paranoia, as light as it can be, can contribute for me - a lovely cycle for a week or so... :) I hope it clears up soon :)

I'm so jealous about your thanksgiving!

Our Thanksgivings are great! I've seen grown men and women weep when I had to tell them we had no more room at the inn. :P

Wow, impressive.... :)

October 2019
    1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 11 12
13 14 15 16 17 18 19
20 21 22 23 24 25 26
27 28 29 30 31


lizardek's obiter photos
lizardek's obiter photos

Feeling generous? Be my guest!

I can complain because rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.

Abraham Lincoln

obiter snippets

Layout thanks to dandelion.
Findus the cat as used in my user icon and header is the creation of Sven Nordqvist.