September 22nd, 2003

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GRUMP

I was supposed to have a red Alfa Romeo Graduate 2-door convertible by now. My life has veered, obviously.
  • Current Music
    Dire Straits—Skateaway
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CONTENTMENT IN SWEDEN

Interesting stats and answers from a "Contentment in Sweden" survey done by Parent Net Sweden, directed at expatriates: Read more here

In one of the accompanying articles, a woman had this to say, "What I needed during my first years in Sweden was for someone to say to me, "It is really difficult to live in a culture that is so different from the culture in which you were brought up. It is natural that you are having a hard time." Unfortunately, I never heard this; I was told by the people around me that I was obviously not doing the right thing, not behaving correctly, not being this way or that way. In short, I was wrong and everybody else was right. I was a failure. No matter what I did--learning the language well, my academic achievements, finally landing a job--I was still a failure because I hadn't 'adjusted', 'adapted', or whatever I had to do to feel good about the place I lived and the people around me."

I have had the complete opposite experience, although I don't know if she had unrealistic expectations or had never lived abroad, but I have to say, I KNEW it would be difficult living in a foreign culture, even one as "Americanized" as Sweden, and have always tried to think of it as an adventure. This is the philosophy that my parents succeeded in instilling in us during a childhood moving from one place to another. I've always thought I WAS doing the right things, and never doubted for a minute that I would succeed and assimiliate to the extent I wanted to. I wonder if that just reflects on my own self-esteem and self-confidence or if I'm just obnoxious. Probably both.
  • Current Music
    Eurythmics—Here Comes the Rain Again
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WISDOM

Alright, already same_sky, here you go. I don't usually do stuff like this, but you got me thinking...

10 Things I've Learned:
  1. everybody is somebody else's weirdo

  2. everything is better in moderation, including moderation

  3. nothing can make water better

  4. if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

  5. the fruit doesn't fall very far from the tree

  6. it doesn't come to stay, it comes to PASS

  7. nothing is sacred and everything is opinion, including this

  8. what goes around comes around

  9. rudolf the red-nosed reindeer unsticks any earworm and doesn't stick itself

  10. in a women's club, the same 15 people will do everything even if there are over 100 members
In other news, we've got a President for our club! I'm so relieved. We go through this every year, but this is the closest it's ever been. The woman who has come forward is also going through a tough time right now, and has a lot on her plate (who doesn't?), but she was excited about doing it, and I'm thrilled. :)

Lots to do, gotta go *zooms off*
  • Current Music
    Mekons—Fletcher Christian