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Fog is so wet. It's white and woolly water, floating around, out of its element. Filtered translucency envelopes everything. There is only white coming down from above, a smothered angel. Glaucoma of the skies.

I am out of practice. While sick, I had no desire to write, and now that I do, there doesn't seem to be any easy flow from my mind to the screen.

One thing I'm always telling myself, my children, my friends is to just do it. Waiting for the time to be right for something will leave you waiting forever. When one of my kids whines that they can't do something, my response is invariably, "well, you'll never know if you can do it unless you try." It sounds smug by itself out there like that, but smugness couldn't be further from my mind. I truly believe that trying is half the battle.

I never understood the argument of waiting to have children until it was the "right time" since as far as I could tell, there is NEVER really a right time. My philosophy was, once I'd decided that, okay, yes, I guess I was going to try for children in the first place, to go ahead and do it and let the rest fall into place. It worked, too. And it's worked for other people that I've sold on the idea.

I find that, most of the time, trying invariably leads to doing, and thus to being done with whatever it was that was the source of anxiety in the first place. It helps with any procrastination tendencies I might have, to think: if I just start, I'll be doing, and then before I know it, I'm done. Ta-dah! Waiting never does me much good. And since I'm impatient as all get out, and hating waiting as much as I do, it's just as well that my own personal philosophy jumpstarts me more often than not.

Even when I don't know what I'm going to write about or where I'm going with it once I start, by the time I finish, I can look back and think, Ta-dah! I did it!

*dusts hands together and nods with satisfaction*

Really Great Writing Out There Right Now: Winter Wonderings
mood: contemplative
music: kd lang—Consequences of Falling


I'm with you about "just do it". That is my new motto. I am going to Paris in May and you know, I can't really afford it but if I waited until I could, it would probably never happen. So, I am making it happen! My daughter and mum are coming too. Tickets are booked and I am heading to the flea market this weekend to start earning some extra $$!

Whee! Good for you!! :D

I've been meaning to ask you about your new header, which is very, very cute. See, I hate the LJ style system. It's not straight HTML. In fact, it's PITA. A great, big, gigantic pain in the arse. So, that established: how did you go about putting on your header to your journal?

Russell ranted quite a bit about it the other night when he was helping me with the stupid thing...seems it's not proper HTML the way they've got it set up with the style overrides. And it's got an image in the head where it shouldn't be visible instead of in the body where it belongs.

Anyway, I made the header first to the width I'd set my Boxer layout to. Then I followed the instructions that gentle_dream pointed me to over at boxer_help and then, when THAT code didn't allow me to put in a new header AND keep my background image, I asked for help in the community and got a different code that worked just fine!

1. create your banner
2. Follow these instructions to create a style
3. Use this code instead of the code given in the instructions if you want to have a background image as well as a header.
4. et voilà!

I've done plenty of ranting about LJ's styles. Hate them, hate them, hate them. But thanks for the directions -- I'll look into it later, and give it a shot.

I assumed it was because I have a free account. You need to have a paid account to do all that, right?

Yep, I think so. In fact, you might have to have a paid account to use the Boxer style in the first place, if I remember correctly. :(

very insightful...and you're also very right :)

I agree, if you are always waiting for the right time you are really waiting to start living. We never know what tomorrow may bring. I have been an ultimate procrastinator in the past. For years I hardly did anything new and I told myself that I expressed this behavior because I was waiting for the right time but really I was afraid to fail. Now I just go for it more and think less.


O, Liz. Seeing my entry posted here has made me feel oodles better. I am having a v. bad day. The horror of the endless root canal(s) continued yesterday (the FOURTH appointment and I still have to go back next Tuesday for polishing!!! Argh. It will never end!) and I was very very sore when I got home so i took some of the Tylenol 3 the dentist perscribed and went to bed most grumpy. Woke up this morning, still in an abundance of pain, took another Tylenol 3 and had a bad reaction to it. Bed spins and vomiting. Ewwww. Vomiting after major dental work is so NOT FUN. Freaked Finny J out completely. She tried to console me by vigourosly licking my ear while I worshipped (loudly) at the porcelian altar and has spent the whole day draped across my legs, wrinkling her brow at me with obvious concern. Have spent the entire day in bed and am upright now for the first time in about 8 hours. The world still seems to be tipping a little to far to the left, but the love from Sweden is most healing. Thank you!

xo Wee

P.S. Love, love love "glaucoma of the skies." very descriptive.

ow ow ow you poor poor thing!! :( It will end!! It will pass, and thankfully, the body doesn't remember pain. Poor dear, and poor Finny Jane, who doesn't understand what's wrong. Root canals are major suckage. *sends you speed healing and a brace so you don't tip so far over*

Well as usual, a very well written post even if you think it's about nothing. I think it's a great can do attitude to have. I wish I had your drive to succeed. I seem to have misplaced that instinct when I fell out of my tree.

Off topic: I thought of you tonight. The comedian Robert Gustafsson did the most wonderful rip-off of Peps Persson this evening. L-G and I were rolling on the floor with his exaggerated Skånska!

Anders watched it, too! He said it was great. He loves both Robert Gustafsson AND Peps so it was extra special. :)

Oh, my god! I just realized something...Liz? You and are are never going to speak Swedish together. Know why? I do not understand Skånska. At all. I mean, really...not at all. Last night we were watching the news and they were talking about the Helsingborg chemical cloud. Suddenly a fireman from Helsingborg was being interviewed. I turned to Tobey's dad and asked, in all seriousness, "what language is he speaking?" His dad almost fell of the sofa and answered, "Swedish." Why can't I understand it? I mean, you're only like TWO HOURS away from me...It just baffles me to think there's such a language difference between what amounts to less than the distance between Santa Barbara and San Diego.

LOL! I used to get in trouble in Swedish class for speaking Skanska and writing in it!! Hee!

Don't worry, we're not that bad. Anders has almost no accent at all, and I just sound American :D


You are so right--if you just START, it will somehow happen...AND get done. But, of course, I didn't learn that until I was at least 35. Until then, I was the Procrastination Queen. And, no, there's never really a perfect time to do anything. That point was really driven home for me when we moved here. J. came down to set things up for us (and make sure we could have some sort of life here, since he'd only been here once for a few days). I had NO idea when I would follow, but I just picked a date...and somehow (magically) everything I needed to do got done in time. Yet it's funny how often we look back and think in retrospect that the timing was 'perfect' if we couldn't imagine having done it any other way. :) ~Marilyn

See, this post just kicked my butt. In a good way. I'm SUCH a procrastinator. Even though I recognize it, even though I know how bad it is, I just wait and wait and wait. I don't know what exactly I'm waiting for. I guess for good fortune and opportunity to drop in my lap. I guess I want things-people-success to find ME instead of the other way around. But it doesn't happen, it's never happened...

But to NOT be a procrastinator means one has to be organzied. Though I have the ability to be extremely organized, I also suffer from that procrastintor's symptom of laziness. But this was good insight to be unexpectedly hit with.

I don't think that to not be a procrastinator means you have to be organized, actually (even though I am). I think you just have to get into the habit of doing things immediately instead of putting them off. It's a hard habit to start, but it's doable. I did it. :)

I agree with Liz on this one. Some of the most DIS-organized people I know still get large amounts of things done because they just DO it. One of the ways that procrastinators get stuck is telling themselves they have to have the work space/ house/ studio/ their LIVES organized in order to start. So, oh well, when I get organized, THEN I'll do something.

Sometimes I find that disorder reigns all around me when I'm truly productive. I get a whole lot done amid the chaos, but then it gets to me, and so I get organized too.

Here's one of my favorite quotes, which I'm surprised you didn't put at the top, Liz:

from W.H. Murray, written on the West Ridge of Mt. Everest

Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectualness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too: all sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Geothe's couplets:

"Whatever you can do or dream you can,
begin it.
Boldness has genius
Power and magic in it."

I think I'll post this on travelertrish today. Sometimes, I need to hear myself quote it!

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