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I'm a little grumpy tonight, because Anders left for Italy today and won't be home until Friday, and considering that he was gone for 9 days just 3 days ago I think I'm entitled to a little grumpiness. *sigh*

Things I Really, Really Need to Get Off My Butt and DO:
  • Get Karin's passports renewed; at least the Swedish one, and soon

  • Learn the song I am supposed to be singing at my brother's wedding in May. I suspect my non-motivation has to do with the fact that I don't really like it that much, and that it's not really my style

  • Edit a year's worth of photos and update the family website, which is going on a year of non-updates AGAIN

Something I Regretted Joking About Within Moments of Its Utterance: "I've gone as far as I can with all my projects today which means I might actually be bored tomorrow." I meant bored in the context of only 21 things to do instead of the usual 42, I swear! :O

A Current Parenting Dilemma: Martin has recently made statements to the fact that he does not like ice skating, and does not like singing, much to my dismay. Not because it matters whether or not he actually likes them, but because he can't or won't articulate WHY. It bothers me that my child, who is normally really good about trying new activities, seems to be developing the sort of mental blocks about certain things similar to the one I developed at a young age to math. I don't know if the reasons why are because he doesn't think he's good at them, or he's been teased about them, or because someone else in his family IS good at them (his dad when it comes to skating, his mom when it comes to singing) or what. I've asked and encouraged and cajoled, and then I shut up, because I figured I wasn't doing any good and was possibly doing more damage, but I confess to be at a loss. I hate to see him shut himself off from things that I know he would (and does, in the case of singing) enjoy if he gave them half a chance. I am also worried that it's a trend and not coincidentally 2 things at once which he is avoiding or refusing. I suspect I need a chill pill.

Earworm! Earworm!! AAGH! Somebody HELP ME: Put your hand in the hand of the man who stilled the water. Put your hand in the hand of the man who calmed the sea. Take a look at yourself and you can look at others differently...Put your hand in the hand of the man from Galileeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Quantum Freakout: Sometimes, when I look at the blogrolls and link lists of other online journalists, I get all weirded out because there are SO MANY OF THEM. Why this should surprise me, given the current population of the earth, I don't know. There are SO many people writing online out there! THINK OF WHAT WE'RE MISSING! *hyperventilates* The only thing that keeps my head from exploding completely is the fact that, WITHOUT FAIL, every single one of them lists dooce. It's positively eerie. She'd be like the the missing link of the blogosphere, except that she's the LINK! hahaha! Okay, that was just goofy. *giggles madly*

Cracking Me Up: Jennifer vs. Poolboy
mood: silly
music: Steve Winwood—The Finer Things


Am I the only person on the planet who got sick of reading dooce?

And here's my two cents/50 öre on Martin's declarations. Kids his age are trying to define themselves. Sometimes they do it by deciding that they DO this or that, other times they decide that they are who they are because of what they DO NOT do. It's all shifting sands.

Lastly, I do not thank you for that earworm which I can already feel burrowing its way into my brain where it will crawl around all day long. "...dah dah dah before I reached age of seven...dah dah dah...something about heavennnnnnnn...."

No, you can't possibly be the only person who got sick of reading dooce. To be honest, I thought her quality suffered greatly for awhile, but considering what she was going through at the time, it's hardly surprising. I also think that she takes some getting used to, and that her style isn't for everyone, but that said, she DOES seem to appeal to a really broad range of people.

Thanks for your note about Martin. That's the biggest reason why I shut up and backed down...I don't want to be responsible for pushing him in a direction that appeals to ME either. I know he has to come to his own conclusions. I guess it's mostly because I hate to see him stifling himself or not TRYING or narrowing his choices at such a young age.

not fair! don't put religious earworms on us!! :-O

Misery loves company! :P

The problem with earworms, is that getting rid of one generally involves becoming infected with another. The best we can hope for is that the secondary infection will be less annoying than the original. :O

I offer my own current contagion:

Blame it on the bossa nova / with its magic spell
Blame it on the bossa nova / that he did so well
Oh, it all began with just one little dance
But then it ended up a big romance
Blame it on the bossa nova / The dance of love

Now was it the moon? / No, no, the bossa nova!
Or the stars above? / No, no, the bossa nova!
Now was it the tune? / Yeah, yeah, the bossa nova!
The dance of love!

Heh. That one can't get me. :)

Ciao, Bella!

I know you are grumpy because Anders is off to Italy to see the other woman in his life. Be honest.

Re Martin. I know it is hard but maybe he's trying to find out what it is that he likes and he also wants the freedom to be able to say yes or no to it. So many parents insist the kids continue something they show an aptitude for and the kid ends up HATING it becuse he felt he was compelled to do it. He was powerless. Just inagine if you showed a talent for piano accordian and your dad put the guilt trip on you to keep going even though you loathed it. But left to your own devices, you may develop a love for it (but please, never play it in my presence!)

I never insisted my kids continue with things they tried unless they wanted to. Not that they were allowed to opt out of evverything. I let them know that if I signed up for 6 weeks of skating lessons, they had to fulfil that 6 weeks after which we could decide whether to continue or not. But it is hard to sit by and wonder if he is wasting a learning opportunity.

Re: Ciao, Bella!

I know. I can't compete with that mistress of his. I've given up even trying.

And I agree with you about kids, and that is why I'm trying very hard NOT to push him either way. We already have the rule about finishing through with an activity that has been paid for, but no forcing them to continue after that. Parenting is so frustrating sometimes, though. You can't help but think, "but I KNOW how this will turn out in 20 years!!"

If you even attempt at singing COuntry Roads. Iwillkillyou. :)
Maybe you could find another song that we can approve of, one that you like (NO carpenters)....or get over it and sing what we tell you too....

As for Martin, not sure if I can blame him about the skating. but being a swede (1/2) I am sure he will learn it at some point and be able to do it better than most other nationalities. as far as singing I find it a bit incredible, especially since I have caught him singing when he thinks no one is listening. I am sure it is just his shyness. he needs a car or a shower, where everyone can sing and not care.

take that chill pill. let him grow.

are you practicing that song yet??? well get off the internet and get at it woman!


...take me hoooooooooome, to the plaaaaaaaaaace I beloooooooooong...


I am practicing 2, just in case. I am still in the beginning stages, so hopefully once I get more familiar with it, and have it learned by heart to the point where I can make it mine, it will be fine. If it won't work at all, radio reminds me of my home far awaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay

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