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Today I had what is called in Swedish my P U samtal with my boss. It stands for Personlig Utveckling and translates literally as Personal Development Discussion. What it boiled down to was she's happy, I'm happy, go forth and prosper. We have these conversations twice a year, and that is in addition to the salary discussions that take place every December. I have been at this job for just under 2 years and I love it more than ever. In the entire time, there has been only 1 day that I did not want to get out of bed and go to work, and for someone who values and prioritizes sleeping in to ridiculous levels, getting up (relatively) cheerfully at 6:45 a.m. 5 days a week is nothing short of miraculous.

Because I think that I am exceptionally good at what I do, and have yea verily discovered my niche in life in regards to my working career, it has always been hard for me to come up with goals and improvements during these conversations. I don't say that out of conceit, honestly, regardless of how it sounds. I know that I've been incredibly lucky here in Sweden, not only that I was able to find work in my field, but to have found it TWICE and to be doing what I love most and do best. It's something that I wish everyone could have and experience, because I think it gives such a sense of self-esteem and fulfillment.

So, when I'm beating myself up about a veritable plethora of other things like not being able to get motivated about exercise, about my tendency to let my tastebuds and stomach rule instead of my brain, my pathetic inability to do any but the most simple math, and my constant struggle with budgeting issues (sung in a gravelly Bob Dylan voice: where does all the money go? Long time spending...), I at least have the consolation of knowing that I am damn good at what I do for a living.


3 weeks of swimming lessons have done wonders for the kids, in addition to bronzing them a pale gold. Today, after changing into their swim gear, they played in the pool for 10 minutes before their class started. I walked back to the car to get my book, and when I returned, Karin was walking slowly around in the crowded junior pool, her eyes squinched up against the glare, turning round and round as she obviously looked for her brother...who was behind her, ducking underwater and holding his breath every time she turned in his direction. :)


I've been thinking about my dad a lot lately, and just now felt the impulse to google his name. Not surprisingly, since he died before the internet phenomenon really took off, there wasn't anything out there but a link to our online family tree (which is actually my mom's side), but it led me to google my brother (who shares all but his middle name with my dad) and then my grandfather, whose first name is my brother's middle name. Are you following this so far? If not, I don't blame you one bit. ANYWAY, I found quite a lot of links to my grandfather, Dr. SLAUGHTER (isn't that great?!) despite his having been deceased since 1970, including this list of newspaper article headlines (alas, no links to the actual articles) and numerous references to a continuing lecture series in his name, various medical papers he wrote and other associated medical links with his name on them. Neat!


I just received an e-mail from one of the poetry contributors to Mosaic Minds, mentioning that she shared one my recent poems, Time Well Spent, with her book group, and passing along the compliments that they gave it. That totally made my day. People can be so nice!

Pretty, Pretty, Multi-Petaled Birthday Cheers to idahoswede!
mood: thoughtful
music: Style Council—Speak Like a Child


Yes, neat about finding all the info on Grandad Danely. I knew about the lecture series- but wasn't sure if it was still happening. That started right after his death. The newspaper articles are from his hometown, and I think(??)I have a couple copies in my family box.
How is Karin's swimming ability? And happy about your career abilities! Always good to do what you love - steer your kids in that direction too!
Love. Lizardmom

I couldn't find the lecture series listed after 1983, but that might have been because I wasn't looking in the right place and because St. Francis doesn't have their own website.

Karin is doing well, too, she is putting her whole face under the water now for more than a split second. She is much more tentative, surprisingly, than Martin. He's being cannonballing off the edge since practically day one, and yesterday, he learned why a bellyflop hurts so much. They both passed their classes today and were awarded little pins to prove it. I didn't see much evidence of "real" swimming, but it was mostly a basic splash-and-play-to-get-comfortable-with-the-basics class.

I think I have a couple of copies of the newspaper articles in the Danely Family Tree book I did, as well. :)

vacation and lakrits

I've been lax at checking blogs, and only now realized that you are going to Scotland. I'm slow on the uptake sometimes, sorry. I've always wanted to go there, and I just read a good chapter out of Frances Mayes' new book (A Year in the World: Journeys of a Passionate Traveler), where she talks about renting a house in Scotland, and it just reinforces my desire to get there somehow..

Also just read the salt licorice part, and wanted to tell you that my 7 year old will happily eat Turkish Pepper candies after me forcing it on him for years... Even my american husband will eat it too. I don't think he enjoys it as much as we do though..

Have fun!

Re: vacation and lakrits

Is that the Under the Tuscan Sun lady? She rents houses all over the place! Yoicks. I'll have to get that book now :)

me again.

Duh! Forgot to sign it. Silly me.



I am happy you like your job, and that is interesting how you found information about your grandfather. My relatives have no presence on the Internet.


Most of mine don't either. I, on the other hand, totally make up for them all.

if you're researching dr slaughter (very cool name, btw) you could try searching on to find scientific articles he may have written. (put his name as author under "limits".) since they will be older than 1970 you won't be able to find the articles themselves (or even abstracts) online but if you find something interesting i could try and help you order a copy through the university library.

how lucky you are to have found fulfillment at work...

They're titled things like "Surgery of the Breast" and "Duct something something Fistulas" so I doubt they are light bedtime reading :P

John Slaughter

when you google john slaughter - you get a billion links to texas trailboss john slaughter. One link calls him the meanest good guy that ever lived. related??? I think not....
And lets not overlook the Band - the John Slaughter Band....

Rock on!

back to lurking....

Pangborn family tree

Doncha need to update that tree a little?
John Danely Slaughter married Simone Graf on May 27th 2006...

Re: Pangborn family tree

Doh! hahahaah! yes, I do. Does Simone have a middle name??

Re: Pangborn family tree

And is she related to Steffi Graf, so you could claim an arc from the Slaughter family to the Agassi family? :-)

Re: Pangborn family tree

No relation. so no claim to the money or a wimbeldon championship either.

I am not even sure if she has ever played tennis...

you are so smart

and pretty, too!!

Focusing on all the good is such a wise move-- I'm going to try and follow your lead.



It is a wonderful gift, to be happy and satisfied in your work. And I remember when you started your job, so it makes me feel like an old fogey lady yet I love the fact that I've known you for a long time (in the blog world, anyway.)


We've been friends for a long time! :D That's such a nice feeling :)

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