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I was approached recently and asked for an interview for a recently launched expat website that posts the experiences of people who have moved and are living abroad.

"If you are considering an international move yourself, let show you examples of real people who have done it successfully. Learn how they did it, how they managed to survive the difficulties of moving to another country, and how they are happily living their life's dream. You too can make such dreams possible; this site will be one of the first steps in the right direction."

Read the interview


I spent a lot of time the last year and a half learning how to say no to the increasing demands on my time and energy. Recently, I have begun to wonder if I need to begin re-learning how to say yes. Or if what I am feeling is just an slippery possessive sense of obligation. Or if it's just another one of my control issues. It it will come down, as I suspect it will, to a choice between an activity I love and an activity I feel strongly about supporting, how will I make a decision that I can live with?


Today is my last day of vacation. Last night I was up until after 3 a.m. because I could not manage, try as I might, to fall asleep. When I am not working I have the slow tendency to turn my bioclock completely upside-down, sleeping in longer and longer, and staying up longer and longer, until gradually I have become a nightbird, singing love songs to the moon and unable to put down whatever book has currently captivated me.* Tomorrow morning's alarm at 7 a.m. will, I am sure, be an abrupt uppercut return to conventional hours. Alas.


Which is worse?
a) the news that a favorite author has died and the knowledge that you have already read all the books he/she ever wrote.
b) the news that one OR MORE of your favorite online authors, whom you shamelessly stalk read daily (or thereabouts) and whose viewpoint, humor and writing you admire and enjoy is/are retiring, or quitting, or taking an indefinite break.

*Right now, it's the The Lymond Chronicles by Dorothy Dunnett.
mood: tired
music: Toad the Wet Sprocket—Is It For Me


I sleep and function much better when my waking hours are 5a to 9p and by nature am a night owl -- and it's always so hard for me to switch back after vacation :p

I loved the last line of your interview ;-)

Sigh. That should have been: "when my waking hours are NOT...". See, it's not even 6a here and that just goes to prove my point! ;-)

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Chuck, among others. There have been several right in a row. :(

cool interview! but don't you dare move away to somewhere else! :-)

I won't! I wasn't talking about me. :)

I read that interview with a sense of deju vu since I was along for the ride of a similar interview once upon a time...and then the last line made me guffaw out loud! What a cutie pie you are. Thank you!

I've actually been thinking about you quite a bit this weekend knowing that it was your last hurrah before going back to work. I do exactly the same as you, bit by bit my hours get turned completely upside down and I'm going to bed at 3am and waking up around noon.

See you Wednesday...Björn and I are coming for the Sushi night. :-)

Oh fun! I can't wait. Maybe I should bring the whole family! :D I know the kids would be clamoring for sushi if I hint that's where I'm going :)

Enjoyed the interview. That's very cool that Sweden offers Swedish classes to immigrants. When we lived in the tropics, I, too, found that most Stateside friends didn't seem to want to put in the effort to maintain contact. For the first several years, I'd send periodic email "island updates"...but often got back very few emails in response. But when I'd email that I was thinking of not sending them anymore, there'd be a big outcry..."Don't stop! I love getting those!" Well, yeah, but it's gotta work both ways. Actually, that's how I came to start my first blog...figured I'd put stuff out there and the onus would be on THEM to go find it. Lastly, can't believe your last trip to the States was two years already...time flies! :)


A. is definitely worse. With B., the person can change their mind about blogging or write a book or ~ who knows. But with A., it's all over.

~Lynn at Sprigs


Great interview and I just love your description of Brief therapy. Isn't that just right on the spot! :)

Oh the "going back to work" anxiety. Hate it. Fortunately for me i don't have that at all tomorrow, not even the "after weekend" anxiety, since I start my holiday tomorrow. :) I will have only two weeks this year.

When I work I have to wake up 5.15. 7 am means luxurious "sovmorgon" to me! :)

I hope your first day at work will pass quickly and that you soon get back into the normal routines again.


I hope you have a wonderful 1st day back at work and are able to ease in, and have some fun (hey, I can HOPE, right:P). Thank you so much for the link. Aaron and I often bat around the idea of moving to Ireland. And thanks for the book recommendation too, I'm out of something to read. Hope you get some sleep tonight!

bradley's leg healed badly... least he still can walk.

Re: bradley's leg healed badly...

did I miss something? What are you talking about?

Re: bradley's leg healed badly...

that's what i get for obscurely quoting song lyrics. it's from 'is it for me?'

Re: bradley's leg healed badly...

oh doh! hahahaha!


you're not alking about me and my break are you?!! Cuz i will be back. And I will be all refreshed and worthy of attention once more because lately? Um, not so much. But when i return, I'll have so much more to share.

Aso, just because i'm not blogging for a while does not mean I have given up lurking and commenting!!! I plan to do plenty of both.

xxoooxoooxoooxoo Wee

I'm glad, that makes me feel better :)


What a great interview! You are so classy, Liz. ;) I will put Sweden on the short list if Beaux and I ever decide to be extremely adventurous and leave America behind!!

Readjusting the internal clock sucks. This morning I stumbled around, mumbling inane things like "i hate good morning" meaning that my husband had just said "good morning" and I WAS NOT HAPPY TO BE AWAKE. I hope you had plenty of coffee to help you on your way!

I am slowly and carefully choosing what I will say "YES" to, after a season of many NOs. I love that I am more available, that every night is not scheduled. I need that. If I look ahead to the week and see my calendar covered in scribblings, I feel a bit lost. So say yes - carefully! And don't let people demand more from you (even that inner do gooder) than you are ready to give.

Finally, definitely A is worse. I dread the day I will have to be in a world with no Madeleine L'Engle, no Anne Lamott. But it is hard when online people you love take a break, or close up shop. I guess it's all part of life, and all I have to say is that the blogosphere is pretty compelling - no one can stay gone for long!!

:) Sam

No coffee, but the coke at lunch was VERY welcome. I was totally dragging when I finally got home at 5:30. Crazy day.

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