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Good news, bad news: there's always something happening, somewhere, to someone. Sometimes it hits closer to home than others, and sometimes it lets you live vicariously for a moment, re-living or anticipating or struck suddenly dumb by the awful and visceral realization that things can happen at any time, out of the blue, for reasons completely out of your control.

2 weeks ago, a friend got a job that might have been written expressly for her, and coming as it did after she had thrown caution to the winds and made a leap of faith to abandon her previous corporate rat-race career for an artistic and world-bettering role, it seemed like the stars were lining up in providence.

A week and a half ago, a friend was the victim of a senseless shooting at the school where she works, watching and waiting in horror and unable to do anything but survive while one colleague was killed and another injured.

On Thursday, a friend of mine called to tell me the wonderful news that she is finally pregnant. She inherited 2 degenerative eye diseases and has had a terrifying time the last 2 years as her eyesight has rapidly declined, leaving her legally blind with a small and blurry field of vision. Despite surgery and every possible tactic the medical community could muster to combat the degeneration, there is a good chance that within the next few years her eyesight will fade all together. Some time ago, we talked about pregnancy and her fears and sadness that she would never be able to see her own child. Now it looks like she will.

Tonight, we are hosting a crayfish annual late summer event in Sweden, and one that we traditionally celebrate with the group of friends from Anders' childhood and Scouting background. There are 6 couples and we see them fairly frequently throughout the year, most notably at midsummer and for the crayfish feast which is hosted in turn. One couple called this morning to tell us they won't be able to make it, because last Thursday her brother-in-law was killed in a car accident when someone ran head-on through an intersection into the driver's side.

Brightness and darkness, 2 sides of the same shiny coin we call life. When it's flipped in the air, there's no telling if it will come down heads or tails.
mood: indescribable
music: squeaky markers that the kids are using to draw suns and crayfish on the temporary porch walls


very sobering

You pretty much wrote what I've been feeling/living. It does feel as random as a coin toss sometimes.

It makes things too scary, that feeling of having no control.


That pretty much sums up my own life lately. I have gone, and am going through, the hardest time in my life (I have been through a lot but it all fades in comparison to my loss. :( ) and have also seen life's good sides at the same time helping me through my pain and loss.

True happiness to me is exactly that - to realise that life always has joy and sorrow side-by-side. And that's how it's supposed to be. The good times are there to pull us through the bad times and the bad times are there to make us really appreciate the good. That makes the power of the good stronger.


You are so right. I don't think we would appreciate the happy times if we didn't have the sad ones to keep us balanced, and we wouldn't make it through the dark times without the memory of the light.

It makes you want to cherish that music all the more.

Love ya, Liz :oI

isn't it true

I'm sitting here trying to respond to this post as it captures something so core-- and yet, am wordless-- I guess, but for prayers of blessings for this moment--


And isn't it wonderful that despite those doors slamming in our faces at times, we continue down the hallway until we find an open one...

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