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Just to clear up what seems to be some confusion on the part of my readers: We WANT a dog. We BADLY want a dog (well, I would rather have a cat), but see, here's the thing...I had cats my whole life, but grew to be allergic to them over time. I was taking pills while I was in the States, but that wouldn't have stopped me from continuing to have cats. When I met Anders I had 2 cats. He was not allergic to cats when we met.

We loved the cats and they were a part of our family. Then Toby died, and 6 months later Pooka died as well, while in quarantine just before our move to Sweden. After only 2 months in Sweden, we adopted 2 kittens, Kita and Sasha, but over the course of the following year, it turned out that Anders had developed asthma due to allergic reactions to the cats. It got to the point where, about a year after we had adopted them, we were forced to give them away to friends of friends, because asthma is just not something you can mess with.

My allergies, which could be easily treated with antihistamines, come on in the form of itchy eyes and sneezing. Not being able to breathe is obviously much more serious.

So, anyway, when the kids got to the age where we were starting to think about getting a pet, cats were out of the question, sadly (unless someday we find a Siberian in the neighborhood to borrow for a couple of weeks to see if either of us reacts, since they are rumored to lack the protein in their blood that causes allergic reactions). A dog, however, would be PERFECT! So we spent a lot of time discussing breeds and our lifestyle and what would work best for us, and then we met with a breeder and saw some puppies and fell in love, but thought we'd be smart and find out first if there were any chance either of us were allergic to dogs because we did NOT want to:

1) make Anders' asthma worse, when it's under control right now
2) get a dog only to have to give it away again, thus devastating everyone involved

When the test results came back, I, who actually HAVE reacted around dogs, turned out not to be allergic. Anders, who has NEVER reacted around dogs (he also had one when he was a teenager), WAS. Especially Karin, who wants a dog with her whole heart. Fish and potential turtles somehow just don't cut the mustard.

So, that is why we are all very sad, still and forever, about not being able to get a dog.
mood: okay
music: X—Burning House of Love


You probably heard this,
but even if you're allergic to dogs,
you might be able to have one.
I react to test of dogs, says I'm allergic to them,
but I still can have a Poodle.
Only way to find out is to borrow one.

Yes, we know, but we haven't been able to find one to borrow for long enough, plus the doctor told Anders that there is no guarantee, even with poodles or the other dogs that are typically "allergy-friendly"...we'd rather not take the risk, both for his asthma AND for the sake of the dog and the kids if something DID happen. :(


I understand what you mean.
Sorry about this.

Opps, that was me. :)

The good news is that you don't have to factor kennels or friendly pet care into your travel plans.
Just trying to be an optimist : )
It is good for kids to have cuddly pets. Sorry for your dilemma.

It's true, there are advantages to not having to think about a dog when we want to travel :) It would sure be nice to have the walking motivation, though Martin is super about being my companion!

That's true. It would tend to get you out rain or shine.

I remember your posts about this: when you saw those little black puppies (were they labs?) and then when you smartly did the allergy testing and found out the tragic results. And I felt heartsick on behalf of your family.

Though they are the ugliest dogs alive, if it's the hair and not the dander that's the allergen, you could maybe get one of those baldy Chinese crested dogs? But maybe that would be worse than not having a dog at all!

nope, no dog at all. There's no guarantee even with dogs that seem to be better for people with allergies that they won't aggravate the asthma. It's not the fur, it's a protein in the blood which comes out in the skin particles that get shed.

Those black puppies were flat-coated retrievers. :)

I sometimes think that in the future, maybe I could get a cat. People's allergies sometimes change. But then I become fearful that one of the kids will have all those same bad allergies that G has and then what will I do? Sadly, I see a pet future for myself. My only consolation is that which gnostraeh mentioned.

pet-FREE, I meant to say...

Unfortunately, at least where cats are concerned, they most often change for the worse. :( I'm with you, though...I never thought I'd have a pet-free future. What a sad thing that is to contemplate. I MISS cats. Though, that said, I certainly wouldn't trade Anders for them. :)

oh what a bummer.

Perhaps you can have a tame roedeer in your garden, or something like that? :-) I suppose as regarding allergies and asthma, other furry indoor pets also are out of the question.


All is clear now. I remember the issue with the dogs, but the details were fuzzy - and really I mistakenly thought it was more an issue with the LAWS than anything else. Which, being a free-wheeling, go-to-hell-before-you-tell-me-what-to-do American, seemed a little silly to me. But now I get it. I hope you weren't feeling too interrogated. And I was seriously wondering about the pounds - but I went back and read your answer on the other post. How wonderful is it that there are virtually no pounds or shelters? That is a beautiful thing. Even though I rescued our own black fuzzy one from a pound, and I like mutts the best, simply because they seem to have less health issues. Anyhoo, how about one of those hairless cats? I'm just kidding, my dear Liz, it seems you have enough assvice for now.


p.s. Just wait til Karin grows up. She will be the queen of all dogs.


Oh my heart is truly aching for you. Honestly. Not just saying it as a cliché, I really mean it.

I don't think I could LIVE if I was ever allergic to cats especially but also dogs.

Did you see the four catfilms on my blog, in the challenge entry!? Soooooo cute it hurts! :)



Get a goldendoodle or its near relative the labradoodle. These are dogs that tend to not affect allergy sufferers, since they don't have fur, don't really shed, and don't have the dander that most triggers most dog allergies. The two dogs are respectively golden retriever and labrador retriever mixed with a poodle. Very friendly, sweet, intelligent dogs.

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