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Martin is spending the night...with his girlfriend !

I was warned this day would come, but I didn't think it would be quite so soon. I had quite an "American" moment when he first asked, but Anders and I talked about it, and we figure it's fine...this time. In a year or so, it won't be appropriate, but for now, they're just kids. He and Ebba have been a special "couple" since they were in daycare together. Apart from a period in 2nd grade when they got teased too much by some older kids and "broke up" they've been steady since they were 2 years old.

While Out Walking:
Martin was asking me about birthdays and how old he and his sister and his cousins all are in relation to each other. His oldest cousin, Anders' niece, turns 14 next week. She is nearly twice as old as Karin. Her little brother Henrik is 11 months older than Martin. My sister's daughter is exactly 1 year and 5 days younger than he is; she's 8 months older than Karin and HER little brother just turned 5. Martin and I worked all this out, and I said, "Wait, HOW old are you?" He gave me that long-suffering kid look. "9, going on 10," he said. "Oh my god, TEN! How can you be almost 10!? That's DOUBLE DIGITS! Pretty soon you'll be a sullen, grumpy, sarcastic teenager rolling your eyes and saying whatever, mom to me...oh wait, you do that already." I crack myself up. Martin rolls his eyes. A few minutes later he informs that when it is Karin's birthday, in July, he will be "halv-tio"*...this makes me laugh again. "You're 9:30?" I ask, and now he is laughing, too.

Somewhat later, both in the walk and the conversation, I say something that makes him roll his eyes and exclaim, "Whatever, mom." HA! I point at him. "See?! I was right!"

We walk on, enjoying the sunshine and the chill air, and listening to the sudden flurries of birdsong which have busted out all over this week. Yesterday Karin and I heard a couple of blackbird serenades and some red finches. Today, a complete chorus breaks out above our heads as we are reaching the top of Tulpanvägen. Martin and I stop and look up and locate the source: an entire flock of yellow finches perched high up in the still bare branches of a white birch tree. I lament my lack of foresight in bringing my camera along. We round the last corner toward home and have to fight against the sudden blast of wind that has been at our backs most of the way.

As the evening begins to descend, Martin has been delivered to Ebba's house and Anders has left for a hockey dinner in town. I ask Karin what she wants to eat for dinner. I have promised her a special mys evening, just the two of us. Without surprise, I hear her answer: SUSHI! "Okay," I say, "Let's go!" We jump into the car and drive into town to enjoy a yummy sushi dinner together. As she's finishing her sushi and polishing off the rest of her miso soup she gets a pensive look on her face. "What's wrong?" I ask her. "I'm already longing for the next time we have sushi," she says wistfully.

In the car on the way home, the sky is a rich cobalt blue. The stars aren't out yet but we can see bright satellites twinkling down low in several places. The windmills are all doing double-time, it's been super-windy all day and last night as well. As we start down the hill from Lund, I realize Karin has been awfully quiet for the entire drive. "Are you sleeping?" I ask her. "No," she says. "What are you doing?" A pause, then, "I was praying to God." This astounds me. "What? What were you praying for?" Offhandedly, she replies, "Oh, just something about sushi."

*Half past the hour in Swedish is stated as halfway to the next. So, our half-past-nine would be, in literal translation from Swedish, halfway-to-ten
mood: amused
music: Joelle Ursull—White and Black Blues

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You think they look like Anders? That's interesting. Martin looks a LOT like me (except for the lighter hair), at least he totally has my eyes (which were also my dad's, his dad's and his grandmother's) but I think Karin looks more like Anders. The problem is that the two of them look SO MUCH alike! So where does that leave my opinion? Hrm.

I have read some online stories set in the UK, and the writer (supposedly British) frequently uses phrases such as "half ten", meaning 9:30. The first few times, it confused me as the story went on with "half ten" followed by 10 o'clock. Is this a novelty or is it a writing that is becoming more common? Admittingly, I can't remember anyone else writing timestamps in that way.

It's not expressed like that in English, that I'm aware of. I've never heard it, at least, and it sounds very strange to my English ear.

Hm. I went back to the source, and maybe I mis-remembered how the writer is using "half". At closer inspection, it seems to be used as a short form of "half past", which indeed is common in BrE. Furthermore, I looked up how some other languages use "half" in telling the time:

Half hour prior to next full hour: Swedish, German, Dutch, Slovak and so on
Half hour past the previous full hour: English, Italian etc

In any case, even we who study English as a secondary language learn how to say "half past" within the first two years of lessons.

I didn't mean that "half past" wasn't common in English, as it definitely is. I meant that "half TO" is not used, which is how it's used in SWEDISH.


What a hoot! Praying for sushi....You have warped those kids minds!!! :0
I hope you have warned them that there is no sushi in Michigan!.....well, ok- just Port Huron! Just tell them that we're at my house every night.
Love, Lizardmom

They don't get it that often, which is probably part of the attraction :)

I just love this entry and the volumes it speaks about your relationship with your kids. It's really beautiful. I've prayed about sushi before, too. Okay, well, I haven't, but were I the praying type... it might have something to do with salmon rolls. :)

Me, too! hahahah!

If it take a little prayer to get sushi, then I'm join' in with Karin. Don't you just hope they always talk to you like this, tell you their thoughts and have conversations about things?

I sure do. I expect there'll be a break at some point, during teenage years, but hopefully they will come back :)

Martin with his girlfriend.


Grace is twelve, and getting more like a beautiful young woman everyday. I don't want the kind of sleepless nights I am sure will come.

It doesn't surprise me one bit that Karin would be praying for sushi. Isn't it funny when the apples fall that way?


Your children are pure gold. Such sweet things - like PRAYING for SUSHI! I will giggle over that for the rest of the day. What kind of sushi does she eat? Is it rolls or does she do the REAL stuff? (I am a wimpy roll kind of girl, so no judgement there! I've seen some cool sushi shirts out there that would perfect for her sushi loving ways.


They both ADORE salmon, and happily eat both rolls and nigiri. They eat tuna and shrimp and whitefish as well as pretty much any roll.

"Oh, just something about sushi."

Can't. Stop. Giggling.

(Thanks, I needed that! ;-))

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