I tell him that I will most likely have to work all 4 days of my long weekend, in order to try and get out from under the mountain of work that threatens to topple over and bury me completely. He scoffs, because he, too, knows what it is like to work and work and work all day, all evening, all weekend, with the only reward or recognition your own sense of ethics. I make some flippant remark about slogging on while other 'mere mortals' enjoy their 4 days off, and he scornfully tells me that I am the mere mortal, if I must slave through my days off to catch up. This does nothing, obviously, to help the grumpiness, and after rankling for awhile under the skin, feeling that I should have had a comeback, I finally come up with one. If I am doing the work of (at the least) 2 people, then I am no mere mortal to have to work the amount of extra time that I am, in order to keep abreast of things.
And after 4 days of steady work, during which time, because of the fact that everyone else is off as well, and there are few new requests coming in, I can feel that I am actually...almost...nearly...just about...caught up, and I think it was worth it. Sort of.
There is something strange in my makeup, I think, sometimes. Here in Sweden, in fact, in all of Scandinavia, it is extraordinarily easy for people who are stressed out at work or just plain burned out, to go on paid sick leave, at the expense of the government, in order to recuperate and get their metaphorical feet back under them. I have been feeling very close to burn out for some time, with no real end in sight, but I cannot imagine just giving up and bailing out in order to unwind, de-stress or whatever. I just get grumpier and grumpier, which can't, I know, be healthy in the long run, but honestly, what alternative do I have?
I DO say no to projects. I do tell my boss that this is a huge, ongoing problem. I realize that I am not alone. But even though I don't like it very much right now, I do still love my job. I just wish it, like the weather, would lighten up.
Today it snowed and snowed and snowed but it didn't start sticking until night had fallen. All day it swirled around but only wetted things, made them damp with cold. Now the world is whitewashed, a sight I would have found great enchantment in a few months ago, but which now only makes me sigh and turn my face from the window.
Earlier this afternoon, Karin threw a huge hissy fit at being told she had to wear snowpants to go to a friends' house and stormed and whined and generally got on my last nerve in every way, and I couldn't take it and told her, short and snapping, to cut it the hell out. For awhile, she laid on the floor of the laundry room and sobbed loudly to herself about the unfairness of life and parents and when that got no reaction, she finally stomped past me and slammed into her room. Several minutes later, she came out again with a much-folded piece of paper and dropped it beside my laptop, before turning on her heel and marching back to her room (*slam*).
I picked up the notepaper and unfolded it. In English, she had written, "
Now, you have to understand that hissy fits are something Karin does well, with style and elaboration, and that she has been doing them for so long that all of us mostly roll our eyes or laugh at her to chivvy her out of it, or ignore her, or (especially in my case, as I have the least amount of patience in the house) lose our temper with her. I wrote on the paper, "I ALWAYS love you. It's your behavior that I don't always love." And I folded it back up and went to her room. The door was slightly ajar and I could see through the crack that she was curled up under her comforter. She peeked out and saw me and almost giggled at the grimace I was making at her and said STOP IT MAMA and thrust her head back under. I opened the door and slid the note under the edge of the covers and then I went out again and shut the door and waited.
I heard her rustling about, and after a moment I went back in and pushed her over and climbed into the bottom bunk with her, wrapping my arms tightly around her. She'd been crying and she made me tear up, too. "I ALWAYS love you, kiddo," I said. "Nothing you do could ever make me NOT love you. But I don't love the whining and fussing. Do you understand the difference?" She nodded and we talked for a bit and huggled and then it was okay again.
Finally, I sat up on the edge of the bed, and just before I stood up to go back to work in the dining room, she asked, "Did I spell everything right on the note?" so I got back in bed with her and cuddled some more.
Many Magnificent Blog-Belated Birthday-Returns of the Day to: knacke_brod, emmabovary and johann_metzger!