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HOW MANY BALLS CAN YOU KEEP IN THE AIR AT ONCE?
How do you manage anticipation and scheduling when every day has something in it (apart from the usual weekday getting-up-and-going-to-work-thing) and every weekend for the foreseeable future is booked?

Especially when it's not just yourself that you have to keep track of things for, but your entire family? Things that have to be remembered in our household any given week include the following:

Monday
Gym bag for Martin, Chess club for Martin, remind kids to do their homework (evening)

Tuesday
Gym bag for Martin & Karin, remind kids to take their homework (morning) and do their homework (evening), Piano lessons for Martin, Karate lessons for Karin, possible AWC activity for Liz

Wednesday
Minigang Music/Play group for Karin, Badminton for Martin & Karin, remind kids to take their homework (morning) and do their homework (evening), Choir practice for Liz

Thursday
Gym bag for Martin & Karin, Hemspråk for Martin & Karin, remind kids to take their homework (morning) and do their homework (evening), Karate lessons for Karin, probable AWC activity for Liz

Friday
Swim lessons for Karin

Saturday
Hockey practice for Anders

Sunday
(every other) Scouts for Anders, Martin & Karin

We are still trying to get and keep all of this straight, and even though I am generally VERY organized and very good about remembering things and reminders, this level of activity has even me dropping the ball. If I'm not forgetting to remind the kids to pack their gym bags, I'm forgetting to make sure Martin has the house key. Neither kid seems to have a clue when it comes to remembering their own responsibilities yet and I'm getting a little frustrated at being the primary responsible rememberer for all of this stuff.

If you have kids, how did you train them to remember their own responsibilities? I'm not talking so much about remembering to drive Karin to karate or Martin to chess, but the stuff that is in the afternoon, after school, when I'm not even home to keep track of the time...how do I teach them to keep their own schedule and deadlines in mind? Reminders in the morning are long gone from their heads by the time school is over and they are home playing computer games and unwinding.

I can feel the Barky turning gray just thinking about it all.

Edited to add: Since I've gotten a couple of comments suggesting it, I guess I should have made it clear that we already DO have a monthly family calendar showing what activities/events are scheduled for each day; which is kept updated, hung in a convenient right-before-we-go-out-the-door spot. Even so.
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Comments

I'm the young padwan to your Jedi master in learning to deal with a busy schedule. My week is starting to look remarkably like yours and frankly it's a good frickin' think I don't work. I would NEVER keep it all straight if I had job-related deadlines to throw into the mix.

Luke's teacher has been on him and me about not having me remind him about his homework. The kids' school has the High Five (each finger is a trait they're trying to instill: be a friend, be responsible, be there, be safe, be respectful). She keeps saying, "He needs to be responsible." What I can't work out is at what age are they truly capable of that. I asked a child psychologist and she said around 10-11 years old. Luke's teacher was annoyed with him on Friday for not returning his library book (which I usually put in his bag). So he copped some attitude about it with me, I think I'm going to have to put a checklist by the door or something.

I have no suggestions, I can only say that I understand where you're coming from.

Honestly, I think 10-11 is still too young to remember all of this stuff...I can't do it, and I'm over, um, 29!

I'm pretty sure none of my siblings or myself were managing until junior high-ish...but I think the training has to start now, and I think his teacher is being really unrealistic to expect Luke to remember to do his homework on his own. (that's what parents are for, right?)

Ok thank you. That's what I was thinking.

I know, his teacher kind of looked at me crazy for seeming a bit overwhelmed by it all. Now I'm joining the ranks of parents with TWO kids with homework. All I can say is I'm grateful for Google Calendar.

BTW, you're rocking the 29 year old thing. ;-)

(Anonymous)
kid journals

The kids (9=10-11) in my classes already have a school provided personal journal/ diary book that they must take out and update every day...they write into it which homework is due when, teacher makes notes in it for parents and kids, and they write in their daily school and after school activities...I thought it was REALLY great of their main teachers to do this with them before they go to the BIG SCHOOL in 6th grade (often a KunskapsSkola, where they keep their own pace for studies...personally I think that is rather tough for some of them who aren't self motivated particularily.) Anyway...the majority of my students ALWAYS have their homework on time! But now I'm wondering what kind of coaxing, hassling, and nagging they get from their parents on Monday nights! (English/Spanish homework due on Tuesday)

I think I'll ask my students tomorrow who reminds them to do their work...or if they remember on their own. They are the same age as Martin, I think.

I've packed Maya's gym clothes for tomorrow...no homework yet! AND I've got to remember that the TOOTH FAIRY is coming for the first time tonight! Yipee!

Carol in Sweden

Re: kid journals

I'll be interested to hear about the answers you get. :) The kids have little journal/books that they write down their assignments and homework for the week in, but it seems like it's erased from their minds regardless as soon as they get home.

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