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First of all, I want to say thank you to everyone who commented on my earlier post today. It's nice to know that people notice and care when something bad happens, even if it's just shit at work making me crazy. Because I didn't have time to post during the day and was uncomfortable writing about it while AT work, I'm a little behind on commenting on my friends' entries, so:

reebert, your new haircut is flattering and gorgeous! :)
jes6ica, isn't proofreading fun? Chemical intelligence sounds like what most drunks have.
jema, we're reading Lovely Bones for book club at my house next week, and since I recommended it, I can't wait. I couldn't stop reading it either, despite the horrific beginning. Have you read Lucky, her first book?
carrieb, wanting to pop your own eyeballs out of your head is definitely not normal, but I can certainly understand the wish :) I've wanted to remove my head when I've had migraines, but remembered just in time I'd probably need it later.
same_sky and totte, you two crack me up! Thanks for the much-needed laugh today.
ozswede and tallefjantand idahoswede, what a nice morning you must have had! Makes me wish I lived closer to Stockholm (or Örebro) so I could have scored some muffin like Lambi!

It's really too long a story to get into here, but recently a colleague of mine was given the choice of either being let go in the latest round of cuts or moved out of the marketing department and basically demoted to an assistant while still retaining her work as manager of events and internal communication (read: intranet). The move was handled very poorly by the head of our department and her new boss, who is the HR manager (a consultant, mind you) and the biggest pompous ass I've ever had the misfortune to meet. He has the empathy of a cockroach and the people skills of a potato. A bintje potato.

The HR assistant who is a yam (one small step up from a potato) when it comes to the same matters, didn't say anything when given the sjukintyg except "thanks for making a copy of it." No questions about what was wrong, was she okay, did she need anything. (This is the 3rd person this has happened to in the last year when going on sick leave). Another person, who, incidentally, is on the management team, walked into my colleague's office, found her crying and proceeded to ask his questions and leave without a word or any sign of concern.

So, after a couple of months of being treated like crap, she hit the wall, as the Swedes say, and was put on long-term sick leave for stress and depression by her doctor. Leaving the company without an internal communications officer. Meaning that the intranet wasn't getting updated. It took SIX days for Mr. Potatohead to notice and only then because the IT manager brought it to his attention.

On Friday, Mr. P came into my office and asked me if I would take over the intranet. Without asking my boss or my department head. Because I'm one of 4 people who took the class on how to run the new intranet platform. Because I used to have the intranet responsibility before they decided that it wasn't really a marketing responsibility and took it away from me over a year ago. Because I'm a woman and any woman will do when it comes to administrative work, right?

I told him no. I have too much to do as it is, and I don't particularly feel like helping him out of the hole he's dug himself. He asked the Executive's assistant (who is doing the work of 3 people already) and she told him no as well.

Today, in our department meeting, it was implied by my boss and the department head that I should HELP OUT by taking over the intranet while V is on sick leave. I told them I didn't agree, and the reasons why. I don't agree that it is the marketing department's responsibility to fix the HR department's problem especially one that could have been avoided. This escalated into a near-shouting match on the way to the cafeteria with my boss. :(

After lunch, where I was silent and obviously upset, I shut the door to my office to work in peace and immediately my boss came back in to talk to me and semi-apologize. He agreed that they didn't want me taking on the intranet on top of the extra work on top of my regular work that I'm already dealing with. The problem is that because we lost half the department in the last round of cuts, EVERYONE is extra busy and tempers are short. He apologized for making it sound like I wasn't helpful, and agreed that Mr. Potatohead was a complete ass. But admitted that he didn't know what to do or what to say.

I feel like this extra work is a freight train coming at me and I'm tied to the tracks. I can see the ugly trend of the same thing happening to me the next time they have cuts if I don't stick to my guns now. There is something bent about this company and the way they treat their employees and this time I don't intend to let them get away with it. I think they need to know that their attitude and behavior is WRONG.

And now I'm sick of talking about this and I can't believe anyone else except the people at work are even remotely interested. If you've hung in there this long, go take a valium and lie down now.

This was NOT what I was planning on writing about today.
mood: calmer
music: 10,000 Maniacs—Poison in the Well


*hugs* I am sorry you are having these stresses at work. I went through the whole cut back thing a few years ago, where administration cut staff and heaped their work on the remaining workers, but never cut themselves. It makes for a bad working environment and I hope it gets better there for you.

Your parcel went out today so depending on the speed of the post office you should have it in a day or two.

oh goody! packages! I loves packages! :) thank you!!

Boy, does that suck BIG TIME! You stick to your guns or you'll find yourself being the company doormat. I've been there and done that many years ago. It was an extremely unpleasant experience and hell, you don't need a shred more stress in your day.

Maybe this will cheer you up - Stress Relief from Dr Ozswede

And yes, we had a great time with Carolyn :) (not that I'm trying to rub it in or anything)

yeah, that's the thing. V, despite trying to stick up for herself, ended up as the doormat, and it seems to be a revolving thing. We are done to 11 women in a company of 129 people, and even though the VD is a woman, too, the rest of us get treated like secretaries by many people no matter what. :( I'll quit before I become a doormat, and you KNOW I can't afford that. :( argh

Darnit, your previous entry was what I meant to comment on earlier. As we established yesterday, I tend to read journals first thing in the morning, but I usually don't comment on them right away. I couldn't remember what it was I wanted to say something about though this morning.. I even flipped backwards looking for it later, but I didn't notice it there and.. well. Yeah. I cry when I'm mad too, and then I get even more furious because it looks like they've upset me, and it's not that at all, I just want to kill whoever it was that made me mad, not let them know they have some sort of upset-power over me.

Anyway, sorry that your workplace situation is in the dumps. But you know that you're in the right, and seemingly, so do other people, even if they're not happy about it. That should make it at least a little easier to bear. Stick with it, it'll get better. :) *hugs*

The worst thing is that I associate that sort of crying with anger thing with my dad during the bad times, which doesn't help any. It does make me even madder, like you say because it ISN'T because they've upset me, it's a stupid emotional trigger!!

What a mess! I would be totally pissed off too, if I were in your shoes. I hope you are able to stick to your guns, but it sounds like that is going to be pretty darn hard to do. I hope you have a better day tomorrow!

thank you, I need the encouragement :)

That doesn't sound like it was handled at all well by your manager or by the HR department. After shouting at you in public (!), he only semi-apologises behind closed doors? And the other potato-head doesn't bother to go through proper channels? That's fucked, and I'm sorry to hear you're caught in the middle. Hope you find your way out of the middle of the shitstorm.

Well, to semi-apologize for him too, he IS stuck in the middle as well. It's just an ugly situation for all of us in the department, and we found out today on top of all this that the other guy in our group is quitting at the end of December, which means we lose YET another person, adding that much more stress to everything and everyone. :( Thanks for the kind words.

awww...thats sounds like a really bad deal :/ i dont understand why some companies treat their employees this way! its so wrong and in the end everyone loses.

yep, and ultimately they are making good employees leave because of the way they get treated, so they are losing capable, competent people for the stupidest of reasons: because they can't be bothered to treat them LIKE people, and not just resources to be used up.

thats can they not see how stupid they're being?! ugh, it must be so frustrating to work in a place like that :/

It's VERY frustrating :( and even more so, when you consider that, when I started there, it was nearly perfect. It's changed A LOT in the intervening 3 years, and mostly for the bad. :(

any chance of finding a job at another company? your future there sounds so dim!

possibly, but the job market for marketing people is so bad at the moment, that I'm pretty pessimistic. I haven't seen ANY marketing jobs out there in over a year. :( The big bummer is that when this job is good, it's REALLY good. I love what I actually DO.

dang...well...I hope the situation improves, good luck!

*hug* Sorry I didn't comment on the last post; haven't read my friends page that often today. I understand why you're pissed, and hope things look better in the future.

It's so sad to see companies treating their staff as liabilities and not assets, it's like they forget what the "company" really is. Hope things work out, and that you find the strength to put yourself and your health first - you do not want to end up like your colleague. Hang in there.

This type of thing happened where I work and it really burns me up. I'm assuming they weren't going to give you any extra money for your extra work either. Arggg! What a bad situation. Hope it somehow works itself out.

extra money? ahahahahahaha!!

*nods in sympathy* I'm agreeing with others, and sending *hugs*.

Been there. Stressed myself to the point where I could barely sleep or eat any more, got sick all the time from stress destroying my immune system. Finally realized that as long as I was working myself sick and getting things done that way, they just heaped more crap on me. Also knew that if I stood up and refused, I'd be demoted in a heartbeat, as my dear, dear manager at the time wanted nothing more. What I finally did was that I worked 40 hours per week at a steady tempo. I didn't volunteer for any overtime, and as soon as someone came in with a pile of "THIS HAS TO BE DONE BY TONIGHT!!!!" I just referred them to my boss, I had so much to do that it was out of my hands to say what would and what would not be done on time. Stuff piled up in droves after just a week or two, and I was just working away, deadly set on not stressing about it. I had pointed out that I couldnt' do four peoples jobs, and I was doing a good job as it was, and stressing wasn't going to help me. My boss got a reminder of the situation several times per day when people came running in a panic with something that was already past deadline. Six months later there were three new positions in the department, all taking parts of what I had been doing, and actually leaving me with the best parts. So there is hope!

Hope it gets better. Very little sucks as bad as works does when it sucks.

Thanks for the message of hope. :) I've been in worse work situations than this before and gotten through them, so I know that this too shall pass. But you're right, when work sucks, it affects EVERYTHING. And since the stress level in my life outside of work is pretty high these days, too, it certainly doesn't help.

Oh crap, work sucks the big one when it's like that. You poor thing. It's so life-draining and life is too short. I hope it gets better *hugs*

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