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Work, sleep, work, sleep, work, sleep, work. Hmmm, I think I might be in a rut. It's not the first time, and I'm pretty sure it won't be the last, but I need to find a way to start climbing out of it. I could do something drastic, but I'm not really the drastic type. Although, come to think of it, maybe trying ON drastic would be a sure-fire way to leap, arms akimbo, from the bottom of this gorge. It's not THAT deep...yet.

Drastic things: quit my job, leave my family, move, shave my head

oooh, far too drastic. Not even in the realm of contemplatively drastic. Not even close.

Not-so-drastic things: take charge of my own boredom, stick with the program, reverse comfortable stagnation

They sound not-so-drastic, but are surprisingly hard to do. If something is hard to do and you do it, does that make it drastic? What does it take to get you to do the not-so-drastic, yet hard-to-do things?

Why is it so easy to slide into slackerhood? You might think, what? Slacker? Lizardek? Hardly! Look at that calendar! Look at all those appointments, obligations and dates and the length of those to-do lists. But the truth is, I do much less than I used to. Maybe I've earned it. Maybe it's okay to slow down and take it easy. Maybe it's just part of growing older. Maybe I'm just tired.

And while all of that is partially true, I don't really believe that is all this is about. I think my inner slacker has become my outer one. I think I have to shed it like a snakeskin, peel it off slowly and carefully and rediscover what lies underneath.

Not-drastic-at-all-in-fact-rather-concrete things: rearrange/renovate rooms in the house, really truly purge some stuff, get out the door and walk (damn it), start art

There. That's the beginning of the answer. Now if I could just figure out how to get things to balance at work I think I'd have the tipping point.
mood: determined
music: Tom Waits—New Coat of Paint


Stagnation is a sneaky weasel of a problem. The trick is to find something that excites you, because otherwise it's a vicious circle feeling tired, doing more to try and break the stagnation, feeling more tired, lather, rinse, repeat. Find something that excites you, and it will rejuvenate you instead of adding to the exhaustion.

I used to dye my hair when I was in a rut but now I won't do that because I'm afraid people will think I'm trying to hide gray hair (that I don't have)! I want to shave off parts of it (in the back, at the nape of my neck) but I can't find a hairdresser who will do it. What's a girl to do?

I need to lend you my hairdresser. She always shaves the nape of my neck. If only it wasn't such a long distance from CT up to NH...

Maybe I'll have to stop in on my way up to visit my mother sometime. ;-)

From Megsie

Oh, man. You are barking up the wrong tree here. I am the perfect slacker. If I could sit in one place for three weeks I would. Thank god I can't. When you figure it out, let me know. If it isn't too much work I may join you. Or, I may nap. Speaking to bed! xoxo

Sometimes I find slackerhood a necessary evil that eventually propels my restless self into the new rut that I need to make. I can however, absorb an amazing amount of slackering before I get restless or motivated.

I do best if I plan a weekly slacker day or slacker half day where I can do whatever I want. I can do the listy lists, but the key is that on slacker day, I DON'T HAVE To. I hope to get back to doing this SOON. Before I go crazy.

Anyhow, it does look like you have the beginning of your personal answer. Now you just have to motivate. I sometimes just put the things on the calendar or the day planner and advance on them (the walk, the renovation, whatever) as any other important appointment or job or commitment I have with somebody else.

Good luck my dear Liz.


I understand the "getting less done than before" thing - this winter it's been hard to want to do anything but sleep. So I make myself do, in addition to my job of course, just two things a day. And something like calling a friend I haven't talked to in ages counts as doing one thing. As long as it's on a list and I cross two of those list things off, I feel like I'm doing okay and not being to slacker-y.


From Willow

I agree with thinkum, it's about figuring out what causes the slacking and finding something that excites you. Rediscover what lies underneath, as you put it. Two things that help me crawl below the slacker layer into the essence of the rut: Writing, for myself usually, or talking to a dear, old friend. But it only works when I decide to be honest with *myself* about what the root of the dissatisfaction is (which can take a while!).

Good luck. And I'll join you with the walking. Want to give ourselves a "take a walk" challenge for the rest of this month? I bet we could convince some other people to join us!

Re: From Willow

This may work for me. Or, see above: Nap. Who knows?


You've already gotten several great suggestions- so I can only add, put something that really brings you joy on that to-do list! I find walking outside does that for me- but then I am slacking on getting out the door and do it inside instead! Not the same feeling though! Love, Lizardmom

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