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Doubtful. Judging by the way real life keeps grabbing my arm and dragging me down the street, chances are slim that I'll actually be able to REMEMBER to write every day much less actually do it. But you never know.

I've always considered myself a bit of an outsider, in many ways, despite belonging to this group or that group or this organization or what not. The reason why wasn't because I wasn't one of the cool kids, though I wasn't...but more has to do with the fact that I had friends in ALL the groups. In junior high maybe not so much...I was pretty geeky, but in high school and ever after, I have always been able to mix and mingle with whomever, finding friends in every clique or group or whatnot. I never really cared what people thought of me, and so it was easy to not care that I wasn't a card-carrying member of any one group.

When Debbie and Camilla were over the other night, when we were talking about a mutual acquaintance, one of them asked me, "Why do you like her? I don't understand what you see in her" and I made some answer equivalent to the paragraph above, that the person in question was okay with me and that while I didn't consider her a great friend, still I get along with pretty much everyone. And she said, to my ever-lasting surprise, "That's not true...I think you're VERY discerning about who you choose to spend time with."

I've been thinking about that a lot in the week since. The truth is, my choices have changed in the past years. I DON'T hang out with people like I might have 5 or so years ago. I'm not as active in the club as I used to be, though I'm still active and much more active than many. Even many of my closer friendships have loosened and grown apart in the past years as we all have gotten busy with jobs and children and houses.

One of the things I like best about online journaling and blogging is the community of people I have grown to trust and care about HERE. Some of you feel closer to me in many ways than people I see in real life. That's a weird statement on the face of it, but we find our kindred spirits in all kinds of unlikely places.

So maybe a month of writing... who knows? A good way to hang out with some of my besties, from whom I've felt a bit absent lately!
mood: relaxed
music: Girlyman—Postcards From Mexico

From Megsie

OH! *head explodes* This is such a WONDERFUL day!

Haha! I knew this would make your day :)

I contemplated whether I could pull off a NaNoBloMo, I guess I only have a few hours to decide and commit.

One thing I have wondered, and talked with G about, is how much of the retreating from online places people used to frequent, is just an extension of the same withdrawing from social functions that happens in real life as people have kids that get older, have more activities in the evenings, jobs with long commutes, etc. I sometimes feel a little left out, not having friends who live near me, when my online friends get busy and don't "show up" like they used to. I'm looking for my friends online but lots of them are out in the real world more now that their kids/jobs have grown. Last night while taking the kids trick or treating, two sets of elderly neighbors told me how happy they were to see us, and how they'd wondered if we'd moved away since they hadn't seen us in so long. I know I haven't felt any obligation to these neighbors to be out wandering the streets so they could see the kids, but maybe the same thing is true in my online neighborhoods.

Edited at 2013-11-02 12:30 am (UTC)

I think it IS part of the same phenomenon...people aren't present as much as they used to be and when they are it's for 40-character soundbites


Hurray for a month of reading your blogs everyday! And, I agree you ARE discerning!
Love, Lizardmom

Well, we'll see how it goes :) the more comments, the mire motivation, haha!

Oh yes yes, do it Liz. If you can squeeze it in...

Trying! :D

Go for it. I so enjoy your writing-style.

thank you!

SO SO SO happy!!!

it's like days of old . . .. woooot!

Re: SO SO SO happy!!!

Everyone's doing it! :D

Yay, lots of Liz posts! ;-)

I hope it triggers a renaissance of blogging among ALL my friends and favorite writers!

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